Happy Habits
March 01, 2013 |
| Morning habit |
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then,
is not an
act, but a habit.”
—Aristotle
“Good habits, once established, are just as hard
to break as
are bad habits”
—Robert Fuller
“Motivation is what gets you started.
Habit is what keeps
you going.”
—Jim Rohn
Habits—good ones—can be our best friends. Research studies
have revealed that as much as 45 percent of what we do each day is
habitual—done automatically almost without thinking about it, driven by cues
such as a specific place or time of day, a series of actions, certain moods, or
the company of specific people. (Do we feel the need for a snack while watching
TV perhaps, or do we check email as soon as we come back from lunch?)
In the areas of my life that run smoothly, I’ve developed
good habits: I have a regular exercise schedule and a system for completing
household chores, for example. However, I also have habits that need to be
reassessed, like when and how I access email and Pinterest, and new habits I’d
like to build, like sketching 15 minutes a day. How can I begin to develop new good
habits and change bad ones?
The first step is simply to begin…somewhere, somehow. Since
I want to add sketching to my days, I can pull out the kitchen timer, set it
for 15 minutes and choose a time of day I feel will be conducive to that
activity. I may have to try different times of day until I find one that works.
I’m usually pretty good at this getting-started stage—it’s the sticking to it
that’s a problem for me.
And stick to it I must if I want to firmly establish a new
habit, and not just for 21 days, as we’ve often heard. Apparently, “21-days-to-a-new-habit”
is a myth. One study found that on average it took 66 days for a new habit to
form (so if you’re instituting a New Year’s resolution, you should be prepared
to keep at it until March 6 in order for it to become a habit). The time it took to form a habit depended on how
difficult the habit was (drinking a glass of water as opposed to doing 50
sit-ups, for example) and the individual him/herself. It seems some people
simply find it easier than others to form habits. (During the study, one person
took just 18 days to form a habit, while another was forecast to do so after
254 days, long after the study had ended.)
What if I want to change a bad habit? I found an interesting
little tidbit about that when I was reading up on habit research: “…habits are
responses to needs. This sounds obvious, but countless efforts at habit change
ignore its implications. If you eat badly, you might resolve to start eating
well, but if you’re eating burgers and ice cream to feel comforted, relaxed and
happy, trying to replace them with broccoli and carrot juice is like dealing
with a leaky bathroom tap by repainting the kitchen. What’s required isn’t a
better diet, but an alternative way to feel comforted and relaxed” (Oliver
Burkeman, “This Column Will Change Your Life: How Long Does It Really Take to
Change a Habit?” The Guardian).
When I check email or putter on Pinterest, I’m usually
looking for a way to relax or (I admit it) I’m avoiding doing something I don’t
really want to do. To relax, maybe I could try simply sitting in my rocking
chair with my eyes closed and taking a few deep breaths. I can also schedule
email checks at certain times of day, instead of randomly doing it when I’m
trying to avoid another task. Pinterest or other internet wanderings can be
used as rewards after I finish some
work, and I can pull out that timer again so that I won’t be completely sucked
into the internet abyss.
4 comments
Kathy, you should be a life coach! Will you mentor me? LOL. You know yourself well and what you need to do and what to change. As for me, I know the same, but alas, actually DOING it is the hard part! I'm trying to set up a more regular exercise and painting schedule, and bad habits, there's that positive thinking that must knock out the bad days when I don't feel like doing much.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Krista, you would be great at that!
ReplyDeleteI need to increase my activity level (exercise). Winter around here is a pain, but spring is coming and I want to take the dogs on long walks.
Just need to get started, like you say.
Have a great week,
Kathy M.
Krista--Ha! Maybe I should take up a career telling other people what to do! You're exactly right, though: the knowing and the doing are two different things. And, of course, the doing is the hardest part. Good luck establishing your new good habits!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Kathy. I'll bet your dogs will be thrilled to go with you on walks. There has actually been research that shows that dog owners get more exercise than the general public!
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