What's the Rush?
May 12, 2014
“Slowness is an
option for everyone on the planet, not just a privilege reserved for the very
wise or very young or very rich. All of us can decide (and the phrase is a
potent one)
to take our time.”
—Christian McEwen, World Enough and Time
For the past few weeks, I’ve been experimenting with
deliberately slowing down my actions. I’ve been surprised by how many times I
catch myself rushing, as opposed to simply moving efficiently and deliberately.
When I take the dog’s medications out of the cupboard, when I get out of the
car to go inside, when I unload the dishwasher—I feel an internal push to hurry.
(Gretchen Rubin describes this feeling perfectly in Happier at Home: “I
always have the feeling that I should be working. I always feel pressed for
time, as if someone were shoving a pistol in my back and muttering ‘Move, move,
move!’”) I’m already aware that when I hurry I break things and hurt myself,
and I really don’t need to hurry every minute of every day, so what
gives?
It’s at least partly the familiar and eternal battle between
doing and being. No matter how hard I try, it seems that I can’t
shake the feeling that if I’m not doing something (or hurrying on to the next
something) then I’m not worthy. No matter how much I streamline my do-do list,
there’s always more to do than I’ll ever be able to accomplish. Hurry has
become a habit. One I’m determined to break.
Even with my new focus on not hurrying, and even though I’ve
written several blog posts about the concepts of doing less and slowing down
(see “Do Less in More Time” and “One Less Thing,” for example), I still
struggle to follow my own advice. Take last Thursday. First, while driving home
from the grocery store, I stopped too quickly at a stop sign, spilling my
coffee into the cup holder and down the center console. After I cleaned that up
and got the groceries unloaded, instead of just chilling for a few minutes, I
got caught up on the computer and was late leaving for yoga class. I barely had
time to take off my shoes, drop my keys and roll out my mat before it started.
I felt flustered, distracted and off balance for at least half the class and
the quality of my poses suffered. After lunch, while on the way to run an
errand with no timetable, I realized I had a death grip on the steering wheel
as I tried to hit every traffic light just right.
Slow down there, girl.
After that, I started reminding myself of a principle
Natural Horsemanship practitioner Pat Parelli often refers to: Go slower to
go faster. Here’s an example in action: that five seconds I saved by
hurrying to go in the house is more than eaten up by the time it takes me to
retrieve the mail from beneath the car where I just dropped it. If I’d taken my
time in the first place, I’d already be inside (in the air conditioning) rather
than crawling on the floor of the garage.
When I remember to slow down, time does seem to lengthen.
I’m able to move more smoothly from one thing to another without feeling
internal pressure goading me on. So I’ll continue to pay attention to the speed
at which I move. Keep saying no to busy work and rushing. Value the time and
space between activities as much as the activities themselves. Seek out
activities with a slower pace. And I’ll keep working on taking my time.
What makes you feel rushed? How do you slow down?
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| No rushing allowed |
6 comments
Dear Kathy - I think you wrote this for me...I so identify...I'm always rushing and don't like the feeling...of course there are times when I do live in the moment but during the day I am always multi-tasking. I have the bruises and scratches and the broken things to show for it too. Thank you for reminding me to live more in the moment. I also read your "Do Less In More Time". Great thoughts. Now I am going to read "One Less Thing". Hope you can slow down too. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteI tend to grab as many of the grocery bags as possible when I go to the store rather than tote them in one or two at the time the way my husband does. He can't understand my need to bring them in all at once.
ReplyDeletePartly, it's a task I don't enjoy and partly, it's a left over "rush" from working outside of the home, having to hit the grocery on the way home AND still fix dinner when before he arrived home—my rush, not his.
I think you hit it when you called it a habit. I've gotten a lot better since starting to work from home, but there are still plenty of areas that need improvement!
Debbie--Truly, I was surprised (when I began to pay attention) at how often I rush needlessly. Usually my first clue is dropping something, unfortunately. Hope you enjoy the other posts, too.
ReplyDeleteLaure--That reminds me of when we lived in a second floor apartment, and I had to do my grocery shopping on the way home, too. I always tried to make only one trip...or send Larry down for the rest! Rushing is a surprisingly hard habit to break.
ReplyDeleteI tend to rush through things too, especially meals. That's an area I'm trying to slow down for. Like you, I hurt myself or break things when I hurry. Years and years ago my son said he could always tell whether my husband or I was walking down the hall by how fast the steps were; mine were faster!
ReplyDeleteCheryl--Good for you--slowing down while eating is a healthy habit. It's funny that your steps were faster than your husband's--if we're walking for exercise, I walk faster than my husband, but all other times he walks faster!
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