Back in March, I wrote about one of the authors who inspired
my mindset when I started Catching Happiness. Today I want to introduce you to
another: Alexandra Stoddard.
Stoddard began her career as an interior designer, working
with Eleanor McMillen Brown. She became a top design professional, and
established her own design firm, Alexandra Stoddard Incorporated. She also became an author, penning 28 books
and giving lectures on not only design, but on personal happiness and living a
more beautiful life. Her website lists her as “contemporary philosopher,
author, interior designer, and speaker.” All this at the age of 77!
Her mantra is “Happiness is the first principle of life.
Love & Live Happy.”
Once again, I can’t remember how I originally found her
work, but over the years I’ve read probably half of her books. Over the past
couple of months, I’ve been remaking her acquaintance by rereading some of my
favorites.
As much as I enjoy her books, Stoddard has a more formal
approach to living than I do. I’m a California/Florida girl and I’m ultra
casual in almost everything. But I aspire to her tranquility and her cheery
outlook. I love the idea of making our daily surroundings as pretty and
uplifting as we can, as well as her belief that we have a role in creating our
own happiness. (She also has no computer or smart phone, and hand writes
manuscripts using a fountain pen. I start most of my writing with pen and
paper, but couldn’t do my work without both a smart phone and a computer…much
as I might like to sometimes.)
A few of my favorite Alexandra Stoddard quotes:
“In my work in interior design, I’ve noticed that many
people have a tendency to save up 95 percent of their money and effort to spend
on 5 percent of their lives—festive occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries
and holidays, and the special, more public places in the home, such as the
living or dining room. Instead, the way to live a beautiful life is to make the
daily 95 percent of your life wonderful.”
“Whenever we want to learn to do something well, we have to
go into training. Just because we’ve been given eyesight doesn’t mean we know
how to use our eyes to look and really see.
“We have to train ourselves to look at all things and see
things well. We must not be limited by the familiar but must instead look and
look again. Seeing well is a process of opening our mind as well as our eyes.
We will be intrigued and curious, but in the beginning we also need to
discipline our mind and eyes and discern through practice.”
“I love the idea
that bees gather nectar from flowers and herbs and then go home and make honey.
We are like bees in that way. We move about, going from here to there, having
thousands of different experiences, and learning how to cultivate our own. We
take everything in, then we make our honey, our own dreams come true, our own
happiness.”
“When you greet life choice by choice, detail by detail,
aware of how much more happiness you can experience, you will be living a good
life.”
We live in a frightening, frustrating time—but what era has
NOT been frightening and frustrating? There is, there has been, and probably
always will be suffering as long as we are humans. Despite, that, we have a
choice whether to live our lives in sadness, fear, and discouragement or to
embrace what we have, make it better, share it with others. We can try to
inspire and encourage rather than tear down, divide, or add to the fear and
frustration around us. Even though that’s quite often the larger challenge.
I do it imperfectly, but I choose to seek after and share
happiness.
What are some of the little things you do to make your life happier and more beautiful?
For a list of Alexandra Stoddard’s books, click here.
