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Already Overwhelmed by the Coming Holidays? Here Are 7 Ways to Find the Holiday Happy
November 17, 2017 |
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Can we postpone Thanksgiving? Maybe until sometime after the
New Year?
It’s not that I don’t have plenty to be thankful for, I
do—it’s just that I’m feeling overwhelmed. The last three months have been a
blur and things don’t seem to be slowing down. Thanksgiving is next week, and
then, oh then, here comes Christmas. (That’s right. I said the C word.)
I’m not ready.
This seems to be a theme with me around the holidays—feeling
overwhelmed and stressed. I don’t think it’s just me, however. There are many reasons someone might not
feel that happy about the upcoming holiday season. Perhaps you’re feeling
sorrow over a death in the family, fighting an illness, or you’re overloaded
with work or other responsibilities.
Since I don’t want to be the Bah Humbug of the holiday
season, I sat down to ponder what I—and anyone else finding him or herself
overwhelmed by the prospect of the upcoming holidays—could do to find some
Holiday Happy.
Here’s what I came up with:
1. Work on your communication skills. Communicate what you need
for yourself and what you need from others. If necessary, practice saying what
you need to say so that you don’t explode or cry or go silent when you have the
chance to speak up.
2. Ask for and—even more important—accept help. Gatherings are more fun for everyone when we all get to contribute. No one wants to see you become a shell of yourself because you spent the entire day cooking a fabulous meal and then it was all over in 10 minutes and WHY DID I EVEN BOTHER, YOU UNGRATEFUL WRETCHES. No, no one wants to see that.
On a related note, cut back and outsource. Don’t try to do
everything you’d normally do as well as all the holiday preparations. Pick up
dinner at the grocery store, have the gifts professionally wrapped, hire a
housecleaner just before your holiday party. See: “former shell of yourself,” above.
3. Don’t expect too much. We often raise our expectations about
a number of things during the holidays. How our homes look, how much fancy
cooking we do, even how we or others will behave. It’s OK to expect to have
some special moments during this festive season. Just try not to expect
everything to go perfectly. Don’t expect Uncle Elmo to suddenly become the warm
fuzzy of the family when he’s more likely to be the Grinch, or that the cat
won’t climb the Christmas tree and break at least one ornament. I speak from
experience.
4. Take care of your health. Don’t skimp on sleep, vegetables,
or exercise. A few late nights or an extra piece of pie will be much easier to
recover from if you maintain your basic health habits. And I’m sorry, but pumpkin
pie doesn’t count as a vegetable.
5. Choose one or two special holiday rituals and let the rest
go. I know there are tempting experiences around every corner, but you’ll just
make yourself crazy if you try to do them all.
6. Focus on what you want to celebrate. Being together?
Gratitude? Your personal religious tradition? Your child’s (or grandchild’s)
first holiday? The fact that it’s cool outside and you don’t have to run the AC
on Thanksgiving Day this year? There is always something to celebrate and something
to be grateful for.
7. Develop your sense of humor, and don’t take everything so
seriously. It’s not the end of the world when the squirrels eat your holiday
pumpkin display on the front porch, for example.
I’m going to try to follow my own advice, and make this a
happy—not harried—holiday season. How about you?
What special holiday experiences do you look forward to
every year?
