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By now, many of the people I follow online have shared their lists of goals and expectations for 2025. I’ve been too involved in unpacking, decision-making, and continuing home improvement projects at both our old home and our new one to spend much time contemplating goals and plans for a new year. Truth be told, in the past, I’ve not been very successful at following through on goals intended to be accomplished over the course of a year. This form of goal setting doesn’t work for me.

I still have goals I would like to see accomplished by the end of this year, but I’ve got to find a more effective way to set and break them down. The first approach I’m going to try is to set goals by quarter. This method can take into account seasonal energy shifts, what outside events are taking place in my life, and if something isn’t going well after three months, I can regroup and reevaluate. I’m still figuring this out, but if I make any breakthroughs, I’ll be sure to share them!

What about word of the year?

It’s been my practice for years to choose a word of the year as a sort of theme/guide/stated wish for the year. Some years a word leaps out at me (as in 2018 and 2019). This year, I had to work to find a word that resonated.    

It’s likely that this year’s word was harder to pin down because I have two forces fighting inside me: “Come on, Woman, let’s set new, ambitious goals; let’s be more productive and GET THINGS DONE; c’mon, c’mon, let’s go…”

And

“OK, Sweetheart, it’s been a rough couple of years, let’s take some time to heal and regroup. You’re tired. Why not take care of yourself? You need more down time, not a longer to-do list.”

It took me a few days of test-driving possibilities, but I found a word I think will help with both parts of my inner monologue: Ease.

This word can be both noun and verb. As a noun, ease is the state of being comfortable or relaxed, free of worry or pain. The verb means to free something that pains, disquiets, or burdens; to lessen the pressure or tension; to maneuver gently or carefully to make less difficult.

That sounds perfect.

It is my desire to be comfortable, relaxed and free of worry. It is also my desire to maneuver gently and carefully to make life less difficult.

The last couple of years have worn me down physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’ve spent more time reacting than acting, my time primarily taken up by activities I didn’t ask for or want. There are some areas of my life that still need some tender care to replenish, but I also have more time to use productively in support of outward-facing goals.

Notice the word is ease, not easy. I’m not asking for easy (though easier wouldn’t come amiss). In my mind, ease means a change of attitude and how I approach things. Instead of forcing, rushing, and overscheduling, I will have an attitude of easing them along. I won’t make things harder than they need to be by my own ways of thinking and being. I can see myself turning to ease when I start to feel upset about something—how can I incorporate ease into this situation?

So that’s how far I’ve gotten in planning for the year 2025. I’m easing into it!

Have you set goals for 2025 or chosen a word of the year? What are you looking forward to? Please share in the comments!

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I lived for many years in the area of Southern California that is currently burning. So far, to my knowledge and with one exception, my friends are safe and have not had to evacuate. The exception? A college friend lost her family home of 33 years in the Eaton fire.

Recovering after a hurricane is terrible—but recovering after a fire? I imagine it’s worse. With a hurricane, unless you’re in the very worst of it, your house is likely still standing and you can salvage personal belongings. With a fire like the ones raging now, all that’s left is ash.

I was talking about the fires with a friend, and she mentioned Robert Frost’s poem, Fire and Ice, in passing. I looked it up, and in a few short lines, using the metaphors of fire and ice, he notes the danger of destruction we face from both desire and hate. Here is Frost’s poem:

Fire and Ice

Some say the world will end in fire,

Some say in ice.

From what I’ve tasted of desire

I hold with those who favor fire.

But if it had to perish twice,

I think I know enough of hate

To say that for destruction ice

Is also great

And would suffice.

While many, many people are helping survivors and firefighters, there are always the few who lead with hate. Whose first response is to point fingers, spread misinformation, and react with glee to the misfortune of others. These reactions just add to the pain and confusion. Almost every situation is more complicated and nuanced than we can easily comprehend.

The scale of the disasters the U.S. has faced this year is mind-blowing. I find myself grieving and overwhelmed, wondering what I can do. It’s too easy to do nothing, when what you can do seems insufficient. I recently came upon a saying, credited to Andy Stanley, that has helped me:

Do for one what you wish you could do for everyone.

I can be kind to those I come into contact with every day. (This means online as well as in person!)

I can look for the positive rather than focus on the negative.

And while I can’t go to L.A. and distribute food and clothes, I can donate money to organizations who are on the ground helping out. It might not be much, but maybe it can help one person. Helping one person is better than helping no one.

If you would like to help, click here for the Los Angeles Times’ guide to helping victims of the Southern California fires. 

To double check the legitimacy of charitable organizations, visit the Charity Navigator website. 

My friend has a GoFundMe page to help her family rebuild their home, which you can find here.

My friend Kerri organized a GoFundMe page for her friend who also lost everything, here. 

Calendar courtesy of Action for Happiness

Just wanted to pop in to wish you all a happy New Year, and share a few resources to help 2025 get off to a positive start. I have no affiliation with these people or organizations, but I have enjoyed and benefited from their offerings in the past. Here’s to a happier new year!

Check out 10 Days of Happiness—a free online program to boost your wellbeing. 

Click here to download your own Action for Happiness Happier January calendar (see image above). 

Design your year with Gretchen Rubin. 

Instead of charging into 2025, why not enjoy a “Gentle January”? This really appeals to me right now as I sit in my house full of boxes! (But hurry, because the live event is tomorrow, Jan. 2. Replay is available, but I think you need to be signed up in order to receive it.)

Remind yourself that good things happen, even when times feel hard. (Many of the most positive things are happening in countries other than my own. It’s helpful to remember that eliminating suffering anywhere is a good thing.) 

Wishing you all a joyful 2025. Now back to unpacking…

I will return to writing regular blog posts, but today is not that day. We finally have a move date and it is CLOSE. Next Friday, in fact. So I’ve doubled down on wrapping up home improvement projects and cleaning at our current home, as well as packing and purging, and transporting car loads of our belongings to the new place.

And the county just picked up the enormous mound of tree debris (see below) that has been sitting in front of our house since Milton blew through, so now we have to clean up what was left behind. I’m developing quite the set of upper body muscles because of all the raking, sweeping, lifting, and carrying.

The pile--it was larger than it appears in this photo

Even though the last two months have been an unbelievably wild ride, I’m enjoying many of the aspects of this move. This is not to say that I haven’t crashed and burned, made plenty of mistakes, and felt overwhelmed countless times—just that I feel like I’ve learned how to enjoy the rewarding moments during a project of this magnitude. I’ve become a lot more willing to accept imperfection in the cause of getting things done. While my husband might not agree, I feel like I’m more flexible—something I’ve always struggled with. I’ve allowed myself to feel the moments of sadness over leaving this very well-loved home, as well as the excitement of moving to a new-to-us place that is already starting to feel like home. (Once we’re settled, I’ll share a few pictures.)

Christmas isn’t exactly cancelled, but it won’t be the celebratory occasion it usually is in our family for obvious reasons. There may be a little holiday decorating if there’s time. I may or may not get around to making my traditional molasses sugar cookies; there will probably not be any Christmas cards this year.

But it won’t be long before we can start settling in to our new home, taking time to put our favorite things in new places, helping the pets get used to the move.

And when that time comes, I hope to get back to regular posts on Catching Happiness. I’ve learned so much over the past couple of years, and some of the lessons are worth exploring more deeply and sharing with others.

Wishing you the happiest of holiday seasons, filled with simple pleasures and everyday adventures!